Dealing with Loneliness while Travelling Solo

 

Ah, Loneliness – the less glamorous part of solo travel. The part that’s rarely talked about. You don’t see this in pictures as everyone seems to be having such a fabulous time always. Solo travel is fantastic, I won’t dispute that but sometimes, I feel so homesick when I travel alone.

Usually, this happens at the beginning of the trip – when it suddenly dawns on me that I am all alone in a strange land. And other times, it happens when I’m experiencing a beautiful moment that I’d much rather share with someone.

In any case, I’m not the only one who feels this way. When you travel solo, loneliness is bound to creep in. Here are some ways to cushion the effect and get out of that place quickly.

Go out & make new friends

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Making friends is one of the easiest thing one can do while traveling solo and this is coming from someone who is somewhat of an extreme introvert. You have to be open to meeting new people.

Smile and don’t be scared to start up a conversation

For the most part, people are friendly. When I go out to lunch or dinner and see someone (or sometimes, a group) sitting by themselves, I’d politely ask if it was okay to join them. I never got a negative response and I was also welcoming of other locals and travellers who wanted to share a table with me.

Try staying in hostels or couchsurfing

I once stayed at a hostel in Paris (St. Christopher’s Inn – I highly recommend this place by the way). It had a really cool bar downstairs that hosted both in house guests as well as people who weren’t lodged in. So even if you’re not staying in a hostel, you can still head down to one to hang out and make new friends.

 Join a free walking tour (or any other group tour)

There are free walking tours in many cities that provide the opportunity to meet new people while exploring many parts of the city center. I have been on a few walking tours which gave me the chance to interact with people who certainly added a bit of color to my day.

No Free Time!

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Don’t sit out your entire holiday in your hotel room. Go out and explore the sights and sounds of the city you’re in. The less free time you have, the less lonely you’ll feel. If it helps, you could make a list of places you need to see or things you need to do in a day. That way, you keep your mind preoccupied with achieving your objectives.

Step out of your comfort Zone

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Do something you wouldn’t normally do or wouldn’t get the chance to do back at home. Take a cooking class or a dancing class. Go camping or fishing. Anything. Take reasonable risks, have fun and if you’re travelling longer and have some time to spare, consider volunteering or working pro bono.
Keep in Touch
Find ways to stay in touch with friends and family back at home. Where possible, get a local sim card with a good data plan. Also get an app like Whatsapp or Skype that allows you make calls over the internet.

Always remember that you’re never alone.

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You’ve got friends all over, just waiting to meet you!

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If you're looking for me, I'll be in Diani, enjoying some much needed RnR at @eden_escapes_kenya Furaha House - arguably the most gorgeous place I've ever stayed at on the coast! 💗

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If you're looking for me, I'll be in Diani, enjoying some much needed RnR at @eden_escapes_kenya Furaha House - arguably the most gorgeous place I've ever stayed at on the coast! 💗

Happy mid-week and see you on stories! 🥰
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If you're looking for me, I'll be in Diani, enjoying some much needed RnR at @eden_escapes_kenya Furaha House - arguably the most gorgeous place I've ever stayed at on the coast! 💗

Happy mid-week and see you on stories! 🥰
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If you're looking for me, I'll be in Diani, enjoying some much needed RnR at @eden_escapes_kenya Furaha House - arguably the most gorgeous place I've ever stayed at on the coast! 💗

Happy mid-week and see you on stories! 🥰
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If you're looking for me, I'll be in Diani, enjoying some much needed RnR at @eden_escapes_kenya Furaha House - arguably the most gorgeous place I've ever stayed at on the coast! 💗

Happy mid-week and see you on stories! 🥰
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If you're looking for me, I'll be in Diani, enjoying some much needed RnR at @eden_escapes_kenya Furaha House - arguably the most gorgeous place I've ever stayed at on the coast! 💗

Happy mid-week and see you on stories! 🥰
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If you're looking for me, I'll be in Diani, enjoying some much needed RnR at @eden_escapes_kenya Furaha House - arguably the most gorgeous place I've ever stayed at on the coast! 💗

Happy mid-week and see you on stories! 🥰
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If you're looking for me, I'll be in Diani, enjoying some much needed RnR at @eden_escapes_kenya Furaha House - arguably the most gorgeous place I've ever stayed at on the coast! 💗

Happy mid-week and see you on stories! 🥰
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Because I put up a list like this before that got a bit heated! So here goes

🌸 This is a very subjective listing: for example some people love to travel in cold weather, some don't; some have budget restrictions, others, not so much. Some can only take time off during certain months...

I've listed places I have been to or those I would go to in the months I have listed. It might be a different listing for you.

🌸 This is not a shoulder season travel list - unlike my last post, where I tried to do this

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🌸 I couldn't possibly list out all countries in the world. So if yours isn't listed here, please comment and tell us the best time to visit!

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