Dealing with Loneliness while Travelling Solo

 

Ah, Loneliness – the less glamorous part of solo travel. The part that’s rarely talked about. You don’t see this in pictures as everyone seems to be having such a fabulous time always. Solo travel is fantastic, I won’t dispute that but sometimes, I feel so homesick when I travel alone.

Usually, this happens at the beginning of the trip – when it suddenly dawns on me that I am all alone in a strange land. And other times, it happens when I’m experiencing a beautiful moment that I’d much rather share with someone.

In any case, I’m not the only one who feels this way. When you travel solo, loneliness is bound to creep in. Here are some ways to cushion the effect and get out of that place quickly.

Go out & make new friends

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Making friends is one of the easiest thing one can do while traveling solo and this is coming from someone who is somewhat of an extreme introvert. You have to be open to meeting new people.

Smile and don’t be scared to start up a conversation

For the most part, people are friendly. When I go out to lunch or dinner and see someone (or sometimes, a group) sitting by themselves, I’d politely ask if it was okay to join them. I never got a negative response and I was also welcoming of other locals and travellers who wanted to share a table with me.

Try staying in hostels or couchsurfing

I once stayed at a hostel in Paris (St. Christopher’s Inn – I highly recommend this place by the way). It had a really cool bar downstairs that hosted both in house guests as well as people who weren’t lodged in. So even if you’re not staying in a hostel, you can still head down to one to hang out and make new friends.

 Join a free walking tour (or any other group tour)

There are free walking tours in many cities that provide the opportunity to meet new people while exploring many parts of the city center. I have been on a few walking tours which gave me the chance to interact with people who certainly added a bit of color to my day.

No Free Time!

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Don’t sit out your entire holiday in your hotel room. Go out and explore the sights and sounds of the city you’re in. The less free time you have, the less lonely you’ll feel. If it helps, you could make a list of places you need to see or things you need to do in a day. That way, you keep your mind preoccupied with achieving your objectives.

Step out of your comfort Zone

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Do something you wouldn’t normally do or wouldn’t get the chance to do back at home. Take a cooking class or a dancing class. Go camping or fishing. Anything. Take reasonable risks, have fun and if you’re travelling longer and have some time to spare, consider volunteering or working pro bono.
Keep in Touch
Find ways to stay in touch with friends and family back at home. Where possible, get a local sim card with a good data plan. Also get an app like Whatsapp or Skype that allows you make calls over the internet.

Always remember that you’re never alone.

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You’ve got friends all over, just waiting to meet you!

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Your Japan trip planning doesn't have to be so overwhelming! Here's a guide to help spread out the timeline for a stress-free holiday to Japan!

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Your Japan trip planning doesn't have to be so overwhelming! Here's a guide to help spread out the timeline for a stress-free holiday to Japan!

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Happy Travels!
Your Japan trip planning doesn't have to be so overwhelming! Here's a guide to help spread out the timeline for a stress-free holiday to Japan!

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Your Japan trip planning doesn't have to be so overwhelming! Here's a guide to help spread out the timeline for a stress-free holiday to Japan!

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Happy Travels!
Your Japan trip planning doesn't have to be so overwhelming! Here's a guide to help spread out the timeline for a stress-free holiday to Japan!

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Happy Travels!
Your Japan trip planning doesn't have to be so overwhelming! Here's a guide to help spread out the timeline for a stress-free holiday to Japan!

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Japan peak travel season is here! 🌸 Everyone on your travel TL is about to be in Japan! 🤭

Just in case you're planning your own trip and it's starting to get a little overwhelming 🥹, here's a quick framework to help!

1. There are lots of castles, temples, shrines, etc. in Japan. Some cities even have all the groups listed above. You can tailor your itinerary to have a mix of popular destinations and lesser known places.

2. There's a lot to see and do in Japan! Just accept that you can not possibly see and do everything in a single short-term trip. Prioritise your list of places and make the best use of your time. ⏰️

3. Missing in the list on the video: a fun train ride (could be a ride on shinkansen, a limited express train with great views and scenery, or a themed carriage).🚆 But don't forget about buses - especially if you're on a budget. They're often times a cheaper alternative, and sometimes, the journey time is practically the same.

4. Visiting the major cities is nice - especially for first-time travellers to the country, but as these places grapple with the effects of overtourism, it'll be great to explore lesser visited places, too.

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Japan peak travel season is here! 🌸 Everyone on your travel TL is about to be in Japan! 🤭 Just in case you're planning your own trip and it's starting to get a little overwhelming 🥹, here's a quick framework to help! 1. There are lots of castles, temples, shrines, etc. in Japan. Some cities even have all the groups listed above. You can tailor your itinerary to have a mix of popular destinations and lesser known places. 2. There's a lot to see and do in Japan! Just accept that you can not possibly see and do everything in a single short-term trip. Prioritise your list of places and make the best use of your time. ⏰️ 3. Missing in the list on the video: a fun train ride (could be a ride on shinkansen, a limited express train with great views and scenery, or a themed carriage).🚆 But don't forget about buses - especially if you're on a budget. They're often times a cheaper alternative, and sometimes, the journey time is practically the same. 4. Visiting the major cities is nice - especially for first-time travellers to the country, but as these places grapple with the effects of overtourism, it'll be great to explore lesser visited places, too. 5. I'll always recommend the overnight trip, rather than a day trip if you're keen on exploring places without the crowd. Are you heading to Japan soon, or is it on your travel wishlist?
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The perfect way to end an evening safari @thehildanalodge 🌙
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A delicious stop in Diani @nomadbeachbar 🦀

I tried the crab samosas, spaghetti bolognese & stracciatella ice cream, and I rate them a 10/10 👌🏽 I'm quite ready to revisit Diani the crab samosas alone!

The moctails and a fish skewer dish I tried get a 7/10 rating. Overall, it's a great place to dine at when in Diani.
A delicious stop in Diani @nomadbeachbar 🦀 I tried the crab samosas, spaghetti bolognese & stracciatella ice cream, and I rate them a 10/10 👌🏽 I'm quite ready to revisit Diani the crab samosas alone! The moctails and a fish skewer dish I tried get a 7/10 rating. Overall, it's a great place to dine at when in Diani.
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I would go back to Diani, specifically for these crab samosas! 🦀
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